Rock Royalty Playing the Palaces & Canterbury

*Dedicated to Gwen, Darren, Wendy, Tamara, Bobo and the amazing fans who did everything they could to be present at each UK show! Also a big shoutout to those who joined in online to celebrate Curt’s birthday!

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Thanks Carri for creating the 2019 card.

The past 6 days have been filled with celebration as Tears for Fears’ fans in the UK and those who flew in from the Americas came together to enjoy shows at pristine, immaculate venues. People who’d never met before shared accommodations and cars to make sure they arrived present and accounted for visible to the band. Tamara even got a shout out from Good Man Curt after flying in from Minnesota. Poor baby, despite losing her dog to illness, she’s been literally flying around the world supporting them. She finds the shows very healing and comforting to say the least. This was her 5th or sixth show this year in 3 different countries. Gwen and Wendy are breaking records as well by going to 16 shows and Darren got the guys together for group hugs and hanging out. Members of the band joined in as you can see in the photo. Big thanks to Reverend Charlton Pettus, Ms. Carina Round and Drummer Genius Jamie Wollam for taking a moment out of your packed schedules for some fan hellos and handshakes. We live for this!

*It should be noted that Curt Smith came down with a TERRIBLE cold that he referred to as just a flesh wound. He sacrificed his health so he could perform for everyone. We owe him! He enjoyed a lovely birthday with his family on the 24th and we were happy to celebrate it virtually as a group.

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Photo from Good Man Curt Smith – 24 June, 2019

For several fans this set of shows meant the world. Another hug fest broke out and people were loving on each other, their eyes filled with tears of joy – the band does that to people you know. They evoke emotions that are so strong and powerful, it’s difficult to write these synopsis and keep a dry eye. Tamara sums it up well.

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Words from Tamara:
It’s been a short, eventful, educational, entertaining, emotional, healing and unforgettable experience! I am forever grateful and thankful to have had this opportunity to come over on such short notice. It was a pleasure to meet so many of you I see online often and put a face with a name. Also so wonderful to spend the past few days with two fabulous fans who take this stuff seriously! I have no idea how I am going to function on the little sleep with all the traveling and running around from city to city, standing in lines for hours and doing it all over again. I managed for 3 shows in a row. My travel mates are going to 16 of these and have already been to 13 so far. Wow! That’s dedication! We shared a lot of laughs and other shenanigans. Those I probably best not mention 😂 I will never forget the kindness by so many like I’ve known you forever. Many of us already share one commonality with our love and appreciation of Tears For Fears music, but I find with every person I meet and talk to, I have a deeper connection with them on some other level which just validates another sign that I was meant to come here. There were many signs on this trip for me. Some of you may or may not believe in that sort of thing. I was moved to the words of Woman in Chains as I expected I would be. This trip was booked only a week before I had to make the decision about my BoBo. So again thank you Gwen, Wendy, Curt, Roland, Jamie, Charlton, Doug, Carina, Bill, Gooch, Andy and crew and Andye. Also my work for giving me the time off short notice and my husband for understanding why I needed to go. And so nice to meet all of you at the shows and I’m sorry if I leave anyone out as I’m a bit teary eyed being Ms Sensitive Pants that I am 😳Darren, Paula, Dion, Paula’s mom, Liz from New Zealand, Martin, Martin’s lady friend and all of the others. Someday I hope to come back to visit again. Until next time…#bunnylousadventures #tearsforfearssummertour2019 #tearsforfears #tffff@bunnylous_adventures @tfftravelfans

Trip Highlights from Derik Robins

Highlights from the TFF Travel Fans & Soldiers of Sound

(few more videos from the Hampton Court Palace shows)

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Click here for Delamere Forest Show Review written by Chester Standard UK

Clip from Blenheim Palace

Gwen drove the official Tears for Fears Travel Car everywhere with fans in tow. This was day 6 with Paula S.

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Canterbury – The Spitfire Grounds *ABC Opened For TFF – follow @ABCFry

*We’re especially grateful to you the readers. You support the band by being present online and in person. You are appreciated! Adam H in Atlanta, we’re thinking of you and Lisa! Thank you both for being amazing! See you soon!

-Tears for Fears Travel Fan Team #ThankfulAF

Libre Stone & Feeling ALL the Music

Captain Julian Orzabal and Dion Smith recently released a new album under their band Libre Stone. It is available on iTunes and makes an excellent road trip companion as you head out to see Julian’s brother and music comrades, Tears For Fears in the UK this summer. Julian has collaborated with musicians in the past including Tears for Fears, DelaQ and with Alisa McCathern to name a few as mentioned on the Members section of this archive. He’s got some great work and it has a style of its own that is captivating and hits the spot. You’ll really like it so be sure to get your copy while it’s available.

Being swept up in this circle of audio artistry and musicians is actually quite relaxing and euphoric. The emotions their music bring forth are spiritual in nature meaning it feels rather divine and rooted deep in the universal bond we as humans have with rhythm. Whether you feel you can dance or not, we all move to music in our own way. Tears for Fears have certainly pulled on our emotions, often from a place we didn’t know existed. When you listen to tracks from Captain Orzabal under DelaQ such as Butterfly and 20th Century, which are top picks, one can easily be swept away. Like a good meal, you want to hush up and enjoy it. It’s the kind of music that fills the void of silence in just the right way as you travel or contemplate. It’s a piece of fabric that is woven into a moment in your life. When you listen to it you don’t forget where you were or what was going on in your life. It becomes part of your life’s soundtrack.

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Mr. Wenner’s pristine TFF collection includes this rare find – EWTRTW soldiers…

Fans’ dedication is shown in so many ways. For example, there are several who keep immaculate collections of their work, the concert t-shirts and guitar picks thrown into the crowd. Some have been lucky enough to get more than one set of drumsticks from Jamie Wollam and have shrined those as well. Just look at those well kept, next to new soldiers that were part of the EWTRTW collection. As soldiers of sound, we certainly find this to be a thing of beauty! Nice job Mr. Wenner!

 


Again, the way Tears for Fears’ music has become vastly memorable and important to pop culture, the Orzabal and Smith families’ work has created a sort of virtual island for many fans to live on daily. A great example is a newly formed Facebook group called Tears Roll Down (administered by Darren Hull). After being a part of another of the 56 TFF dedicated groups on Facebook, Darren wanted a space where superficial details were not the focus. Instead, it’s about the collection of the band’s music as well as gathering with others at concerts. But most important, it’s to celebrate the legacy of the work and the various tracks.
While sharing photos of his recent concert attendance at Hampton Court where Tears for Fears played back to back on the 18th and 19th of June, Darren mentioned the reaction of a guy three times his size and how overcome with emotion he was at the show. He states,

“Last nite was the nuts 4 rows from stage. TFF on fire Best crowd reaction/atmosphere I’ve been in. The guy crying next to me, a lady in front kept turning round and fist bumping me while we sang. A couple behind me dancing away like crazy Amazing it was.”

He also noted that the man bear hugged him after the show and then went his merry way. It should be noted that this happens A LOT at shows. The band brings out some of the most comforting, soothing and, again, euphoric energy. It’s very lifting. People who did not know each other before, soon know each other VERY well. For example, in 2015, at Count Basie Theatre in Red Bank, New Jersey, a man turned around and smooched Andye, the TFF Travel Fan Moderator. They’d never met before and he was vaguely familiar with the work of the travelling crew.

“We were all drenched with sweat from head to toe and as if it were Woodstock. He had been taking amazing photos all night. At one point we were all intertwined on that front row, as if we’d all just shared an UBER ride to the show. When the concert ended no one left. Instead, people just starting turning toward their neighbour hugging and smooching. It was like someone had sprinkled brotherly love dust over the venue. I’ll never forget that night. It was surreal. You usually only see people that interlocked at airports when a loved one is about to move away.”

This isn’t the first time, it continued in 2017 in Tulsa Oklahoma after the show among the fans. Tears for Fears and those musicians that are a part of the sphere bring out a sense of humanity, brotherhood and humbleness that is indescribable.

The dedicated love the band and respect their families. Their level of respect and love goes as far as being willing to sacrifice a moment to say hello if the band members are spotted heading back to their hotels or on their way out. Julian, DelaQ, Alisa and others that are present in the TFF Universe, are a bit more accessible and one can pour their feelings into their appreciation of them via Facebook wall posts, Twitter feeds and Instagram. But we still want to keep our wits about us. One fan from Boston noted that she’s often just looked the other way because she knows they need their privacy. “After the show I went back to my hotel and I just happened to be on the same elevator as one of the band members. I politely smiled and then got off on the wrong floor because I didn’t want them to think I was going to share their location. I’m very aware of that type of behaviour and I didn’t want them to live with that fear.” She also noted that she’s seen them before at their hotels on countless trips to enjoy and support their music but she goes the other way because she just doesn’t want them to feel like they have to keep performing even after they get off stage. “They’re musicians, they need their rest more than most. That’s an hour and a half show. That’s a lot to give. Once it’s done, they’re done. That’s all we should respectfully expect.”
We hear that! That’s all we should respectfully expect.

“It is tough when you’ve flown over one or two continents and you REALLY want to tell them what an impact they have made on us. Or perhaps they finally came to your town after you waited to see them for 20 years…however, we have to learn to enjoy the energy they have at that moment and call it. It is one of the hardest things we have to be brave enough and self-controlled enough to do/be as fans. It’s excruciating really.” -ANM

All emotions and expressions of admiration within the space of those shows or online when conversing with members of Libre Stone, TFF and those residing in this sphere are valid, understood, shared and expected. Many talk about how much they cry at the shows or while listening to the band’s music. They don’t know where this emotion is coming from but it is such a release. You literally let it all out. All your woes drain you and you are on cloud 9 for quite a while. Coming down from that can be as painful as sugar, coffee and stimulant withdrawal. In some cases, it is essential to seek medical attention just to get through it. That’s how intense the shows are in addition to new albums or events where they are present. It’s a miracle we can even hold it together.

Thanks for reading!

-TFF Travel Fan Team

P.S. Friendly reminder the online birthday party starts at midnight BST on the morning of the 24th. Get your crunch cakes ready and sing happy birthday to Mr. Curt Smith!

Having A Blast with Tears for Fears at Hampton Court Palace

**Dedicated to Tamara, Gwen, Wendy, The Coopers and Shaun Smith.

The first two shows of the Tears for Fears Rule the World tour part II – sizzling summer edition left fans quite satisfied, to say the least. More like…THRILLED TO BITS! Roland brought back the Flying Wombat and family members in the UK, like Curt’s brother Shaun, were also in the audience. The venue is quite fitting for our Rock Royalty. It was an impeccable two days. Big thanks to Gwen, Wendy, Darren, Simon and many others who shared their entire experience from start to finish.

One of the highlights of the fan experience were fans, Gwen and Wendy’s, cool AirBNB that was right next to the venue. They were able to hear soundcheck loud and clear. Little Lulu was dancing along and is carrying the torch for Toddlers for Tears for Fears – and there are many. For the Millennials of the group (Gen Y) do you remember when that was us?!!

Little Lulu – Toddlers for TFF team lead

Roland’s jokes were fantastic and funny! It was great to see him in such great form. Curt was kind to pause for some pictures with fans and kept us on his own stroll as he arrived with daughter, Lady Diva last week. Enjoy all the highlights and moments from this magical show. Connect with fellow fans and be good to each other. This is a fan family motto! We’re soldiers of sound, loving Tears for Fears as we sally forth through this life.

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Lady Tamara is on her way. We wish her safe flight!!

Thanks for enjoying!
-Tears for Fears Travel Fan Team

TFF Lit Up Leeds Looking Luxurious!

*This post is dedicated to Gwen who has just gone above and beyond for SO MANY fans this tour. We envision a future fun photo with she and Mr. Orzabal. Picture them in a big laugh together post-show. We can see it! Thank you, Gwen!! You’re forever a hero!

Cutie Pies in the Crowd!
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The reception for Alison Moyet throughout the tour has been terrific as expected! She’s our queen and we love her! She owns that stage! We’re going to miss her when this tour ends…and several of us are just hoping this is not the end of the Moyet x TFF connection. WE WANT MORE!! Big thanks to Gwen for supplying all the photos and contributions!

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And she’s so frikkin nice!! Don’t take our word for it…look at this!

Videos and Gifts from Gwen…

The Chat…Thank you, CP!

The Footy?! We’re going to be asking about this a lot… #Tease
Roland and Curt Footie

“I don’t know how it’s possible but you all get better with each show! That was #6 of this tour for me tonight, just incredible. Thank you for not laughing ‘too’ hard at us singing and dancing along 😜🌻@tearsforfears @charltonpettus @jameswollam See you at the next one!” – Superfan Gwen C.

This is one for the books! We will not ever forget this tour! We have certainly LIVED!! Totally steeped in gratitude right now for this amazing music and wonderful experience for so many in the UK! – TFF Travel Fan Team #Tour2019

Tonight’s bonus is this review: Good, bad? Thoughts? We are known to let a writer have it every now and again if they dare focus on superficial things… tell us your thoughts on this review:

https://www.yorkshireeveningpost.co.uk/whats-on/music/gig-review-tears-for-fears-at-first-direct-arena-leeds-1-9586612?fbclid=IwAR1ZOuBWVx-v-Z8EIRthvt92YttBoEewrLe9S6-2ODhbZnBbyOEGLtqey1Q

Fan Life – Reflections by Cindy P.

Planning to travel is an emotional, physical and financial commitment to drop your life and go out to these healing ceremonies aka Tears for Fears concerts for long stretches at a time.

The comforting twist in this year’s plans were the postponed shows were already re-booked and online with lightening speed while many pondered and tried not to panic upon hearing the Good Sir needed some rest. Crazy thoughts went through our heads. People panicked more from “are they okay?” than anything else. Let’s face it…we don’t literally follow this band for no reason. It’s become a rejuvination ceremony as much as it is a love fest of support and dedication. We rather “need” these shows because they are healing as much as they are fun. The mere idea of something happening to a band member can raise one’s blood pressure to levels unknown. If Curt doesn’t tweet at least once a day there’s a note in our inbox…”is he alright?” People care. People. Care.

In sort of a passionate pull toward fandom’s gate, several fans called, reached out, gathered, and some even travelled to Europe anyway, to be together and just wish the guys well…continuously sending happy thoughts. It’s all one could really do.

We often ask others to tell us their raw thoughts after the show. Many times, Andye will sit with fans and write down their words as they wipe off their soaked brows from sweating during the concerts. It’s air conditioned but there’s some other physical thing that takes place, a literal detox of all that ails you. Andye then sits up half the night collecting stories, videotaping and creating digital files from fellow fans and travellers to capture these moments because they are so important in the scope of what this band does and what type of effect they have on their followers and newcomers to their music. We got a chance to ask Cindy P to give us her raw, unedited thoughts about preparing for shows, what it feels like to take a crash course in TFF fandom plus her worries and fears when the shows were postponed. So many may be able to relate. We were shook to the core.

Read her story here…

Why am I even here? …”I Believe

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Why am I writing this?

They asked me to be raw and honest. Am I brave enough to be raw and honest? I marvel at how any artist can really put it all out there. Mr. Orzabal has been particularly honest expressing his own life and emotions both in his music and writing ..perhaps more than he ever intended. Although I think this vulnerability may be the secret to his appeal. It does seem that he closed down a bit after Raoul and the Kings of Spain. When the Tomcats album was released, he claimed in interviews that this one was only about the sound, the lyrics were secondary (or irrelevant? ) “Music that had no meaning. Vocal is part of the decoration” I read somewhere. But if you listen to those lyrics… They are some of the most searing yet. Poor man, I think he had just reached a point where he wanted to be able to exorcise a few demons in private without everyone speculating about what it all really was about. –

Another Postponement
My imagination is running wild about this: what kind of condition leads to a doctor’s order to wait 9 months until you can perform again? I hope this long postponement represents the difficulty of getting all the venues lined up at the same time while avoiding intervening holidays, etc. and not the severity of the medical condition that warranted it. Or maybe they just did not want to miss the royal wedding? Or got tickets to Hamilton?

Emotional Reaction
So I think it is apt to say that this band is taking us along on an emotional roller coaster ride these days. I may be more sensitive because I have been taking a crash course on the band. Having arrived late to the party, I had to do an “audio binge” to absorb over 35 years of creative output. I feel like I have been carried along on the emotional journey of the band at warp speed as a result. I was out to lunch with a good friend a few days after the postponement was announced when Head over Heels started to play in the background. Although I bought Songs from the Big Chair in 1985 because of Shout, Head over Heels ended up being my favorite song. – It is so joyful!.. But that afternoon, I was swept away by a wave of sadness as the opening bars played.

I am going to go there anyway!
I like to travel alone and often have during my adult years, but now it requires far more draconian effort than you might expect. The planning of the actual travel is the easy and fun part. The challenge is getting all the ducks lined up at home. Who is going to watch my children? What events do I have to schedule around? Luckily this year there were no major religious sacraments, or school or extracurricular functions to compete with my time. – I usually have to write several pages of play by play instructions to ensure everyone gets to the right place at the right time. At least my daughters are teens now, so they have to start accepting some responsibility for their own schedules, but it is really is comparable to air traffic control, this balancing of soccer games and dance classes, music lessons and baseball practices and the odd doctor or dental appointment. By the time this tour was postponed, I already had everything organized. That was-way too much work to let go to waste. Besides, I was planning to go overseas this spring anyway, the tour dates just helped me pick which week.

A Pilgrimage
I feel like I no longer go on just a vacation. Everyplace I go to now seems to require some mystical cosmic supernatural relevance- a pilgrimage, an epic journey. Okay, maybe I am just overly dramatic. – This time I felt like I was embarking on a pilgrimage a la the Canterbury tales: I was going to England- and was finally going to make it out of London for the first time and due to a bit of an overcorrection at the orthodontist last month, I even had a new gap tooth smile 🙂

April 27
I only had tickets for two shows: Dublin and Leeds. I was worried that the authorities in Dublin were going to arrest me for that unpaid speeding ticket incurred on my last visit there- but I managed to slip in and out undetected. My outgoing flight was delayed, so I missed my connecting flight in Dublin and ended up in Leeds about 6 hours late. It was a good day to be stuck travelling since it pretty much rained all day anyway and without the stress of crabby spouse and tired children, I did not let it get to me. I did visit the Direct Arena before going out for dinner. The rain had finally ended and the sun was breaking out from under the cloud cover as it descended to the horizon. We ran into a few unhappy campers who, unfortunately, never heard that the concert had been cancelled/rescheduled. “I am not on social media” one irritated woman told me. Apparently, she had even been on the arena’s website earlier that day to check parking or security I presume and saw no indication there that the show had been cancelled.

The next morning, we took a trip to visit the Bronte parsonage. It was a suitably wuthering: cool, windy, and gloomy. I could not help but muse about Roland as a Heathcliff like tragic Byronic hero. I feel like I am being haunted.

Speaking of haunting, my cousin could not sleep that night in her room in the old manor house we stayed in just outside Haworth. I asked her if Cathy’s hand was knocking on the window. She was not amused. I was glad I had taken the smaller room. I needed a good night’s sleep since -I was the one driving the next day- on the wrong side of the road, mind you, (somebody stole the bloody steering wheel!) so I did not need to be worrying about poltergeists, real or imagined. Although being still in jetlag recovery, I probably would not have noticed them.

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May 2-the night of the Dublin gig

Due to previously arranged travel commitments, I still had to go to Dublin that night. In honor of the band, I called up my Tears for Fears playlist (all 101 songs) and listened to it in my car all day: first as I travelled around County Cork, and then later on my drive from Cork to Dublin. I noticed the music sounded different. This was not just due to a different sound system. I realized I was hearing the stereo splits differently. – At home I sit on the left side, but in Ireland, I was on the right. I was noticing detail from the right speaker that I must usually miss.

Interesting to ponder the philosophical implications of this: how does my
experience of the music differ from someone across the pond just because I
sit by the left speaker in the car and not the right?

It has been awhile since I listened to the entire oeuvre straight through like that, and was reminded of the recurrent motifs of water, drowning, being engulfed by waves: Fires, embers and sparks and full on conflagrations; Light and darkness; Butterflies and angels (people who report out of body experiences will often feel as if they were being carried by or were butterflies as they left their bodies).

And now for the raw and honest part…
So why do I care so much about the emotional ups and downs of the members of this band? Ok I t think we all know by now, that the one struggling here is Roland. It is all about the music isn’t it/ The music has touched some deep dark place in my soul and a connection was forged. Sometimes it seems that he is confused by the effect that he has had upon his listening audience. I have recently read a book about the power of music that is aptly called The Power of Music and it tried to articulate what is happening to us when we listen to music. What parts of the brain react and when. Why certain patterns seem to affect us more than others. Is it instinctual? Or is it learned? Like most physiology, it is far more complex than you expect. Has he inadvertently or purposely found some secrets to music composition? Or has he planted some subliminal messages into the music designed to drive otherwise intelligent and rational people into a frenzy?

Emotional reactions to music certainly have a precedent. Women and girls swooned or were driven into a frenzy when Beethoven performed, or even when they played the music themselves (I love the scenes in Room with a View, when Forster mentions the effect playing Beethoven has on his heroine) and there were similar responses in different times and places for Chopin and Liszt. By the 20th century this phenomenon continues: Frank Sinatra, and then Elvis Presley  (“You Gotta Be Sincere”… oh wait that was Conrad Birdie ) followed by the Beatles.

My friends and family, people who have known me all my life, cannot fathom what has happened to me –  and maybe it is just an irrational midlife crisis. But why am I suddenly so interested in this band? Why am I travelling across the country and even the ocean . “How many times do you need to see the same band?” “ Didn’t you already go to that concert?” Although I have pointed out to my questioners that the playlists have been different from one concert to the next. How many times have I heard the Tchaikovsky piano concerto performed? or the new world symphony? Or travelled to see another Matisse exhibit? No one gives me a hard time about that. This is, after all, just another art form.

Is it a midlife crises?. Irrational or otherwise? In keeping with this pilgrimage thing: As I am growing older, and hopefully wiser, I have allowed myself to trust the right brained intuitive side of myself much more. Now I just follow my instincts on some things. I try to resist that need to analyze it all. Okay, so maybe I am still analyzing, but I now throw caution to the wind and do seemingly crazy things that my younger and far more serious self would never have permitted. I am balking at years of scientific training, and have become more accepting of that which is unexplainable of serendipity, of the possibility that somethings that happen might not be just by chance, but that there really might be some unseen forces that will guide us if we let them. I do not think it is a random thing that I rediscovered this band when I did, but that this new interest is serving some, as yet not completely defined, purpose in my life.

I think the emotional journey of Roland’s life- which he has unwittingly and on occasion, unwillingly, opened up to us interests us, not because we are nosy or looking for gossip but due to its honesty. His journey is relevant because this mirrors all our own journeys. Don’t we all have some variant of dysfunction in our lives? I feel that he has proven that one does not have to be a victim of your circumstances. He shows us a way to move beyond a troubled beginning, A way to rise above it all. By honestly defining our feelings, they will no longer control us and in the end we can escape the negative forces and evolve to a better place… I admire his dedication to his marriage and parenting in the face of his own father’s failures. The way he has met the challenge of making something work when you lack an ideal role model. I think I searched his songs for inspiration in managing my own life and in the process found myself just as invested in the outcome of his life as in my own. When his wife passed last year, it almost felt like a personal loss. The day I heard the news, I mounted my bike and took off for the lake front. I stopped at one point and stared out into the vast blue as water met sky and listened to Freddie Mercury sing The Show Must Go On – and it did. Roland bravely returned to America and finished the tour. And I made a pilgrimage to California to cheer him on. My husband shook his head at me: They will be fine without you there, you know. Yes I know, but I guess I just want to be part of the collective.  My yoga instructor likes to include background info at every class and a few weeks ago she shared the concept of Tonglen with us “also known as ‘taking and sending,’ it reverses our usual logic of avoiding suffering and seeking pleasure. In tonglen practice, we visualize taking in the pain of others with every in-breath and sending out whatever will benefit them on the out-breath. In the process, we become liberated from age-old patterns of selfishness. We begin to feel love for both ourselves and others; we begin to take care of ourselves and others.”

Tonglen- this may sum up perfectly what I hope we, his fans, just ordinary people who care, can do for him. We can all take a deep breath and help ease his suffering, help him through this tragic time, even if only for a little while.

When I said I was brought here by I believe, it probably is not what you think.
It was almost exactly two years ago, when I was working late one night packing up the contents of a bookcase in a house I sold later that year, that a line from the song popped into my head: “every time you hear a newborn scream, you just can’t see the shaping of a life.” I mulled it over. I don’t think that is what the lyric meant, did it? So I took a break, and went to my laptop and looked up the song. Ahh, there was a double negative that started in the line that preceded it. And as I watched the video that night, a few thoughts popped into my mind 1) they were much younger than I thought 2) that guy singing had a really good voice (I found out later that the audio of the video was different than that version that appeared on the US album, in fact I think in general the power of Roland’s voice was toned down for that entire album) and 3) what ever happened to them? And 4) yes I noticed the physique. But a) he looked a lot like my brother did in those days– (maybe it was the curly mullet and the teeth?) and b) I am now old enough that young man’s mother– so the whole potential visual appeal is sort of ruined for me.

The important part of this little earworm is that it led to a complete rediscovery of the band and the several albums I had somehow missed in the crazy crush of education, career and motherhood. And the postponement of the tour that summer, which I think had just been announced, meant that I was going to be able to attend one of the concerts that was rescheduled for the fall. And since I am an overachiever, I felt an obligation to research the band before making the commitment to attend this concert (because it was going to a pilgrimage in its own right- at a location a few hours from the large metropolis that I call home). So I spent the summer of 2016 working my way through the albums as I drove my children around. And spent evenings, listening to, and sometimes even watching, you tube videos of more recent performances as I worked —just to make certain they still had it. I had been on a search that year for the artists of my generation. David Bowie and Glenn Fry had passed a few months earlier, and I was realizing that the soundtrack of my life had mostly been written by artists who were quite a bit older than me. Where were the artists of my generation? Did I have a generation? I have felt that those of us born in the sixties are really just sandwiched in between other generations. We were really too young be baby boomers and too old to be Generation X. When I discovered the song, Closest Thing to Heaven, that line “act like a generation” really resonated with me. I realized that Tears for Fears was of my and for my generation.

I think it is too bad that the shows did not go on. I had a particularly busy day that Wednesday. I had not even been online all day but when I had to check the status of a meeting that evening I ended up on Facebook looking for a message and was shocked with an alert about the postponement of the tour. It was a cold, gray day and as I walked home, my mind was reeling-. not again? What could have happened?

I found myself seriously worried about his survival. The medical literature has defined the “widowhood effect.” A bereaving spouse has a much greater chance of following his or her deceased spouse. There has been more rigorous research into this phenomenon lately and with better studies and more exacting statistical analyses, they are now identifying gender and socioeconomic predispositions. Men are more likely than women to follow their spouses to the grave. The risk is the greatest in the first three months, but it does still exist well into and beyond the first year And now there is some evidence to suggest that there can be genetic reasons for increased health problems due to grief: mediated by inflammation, affecting the cardiovascular system, giving credence to the old adage “dying of a broken heart.”

I feel like this has already been stated over and over, but ultimately, the most important consideration is his health. We have already lost too many artists in this generation. So I join the ranks of those who will patiently wait for his recovery and hopeful return to his life work. He makes all of our lives better by sharing his creativity and talent.

Cindy P.

*We’re grateful to Cindy for putting her heart and soul out there, displaying her passion for the band. We’ve also collected the details of her refund process and how that went. Email us if you have any questions. It’s good to know we’ve got concerts to look forward to (aka some band time) because they’ve come to mean so much to us and we enjoy the up close and personal glimpses. See you all on the road…upcoming concert dates for 2019 coming right up.

The Fan Chat

Kevin Ryan, a contributor to the Observor, owned by Guardian Media Group – UK, reached out to us recently to answer questions re: our dedication to Tears for Fears. If you’d like to participate please answer the following and send them to PapaSFans@gmail.com. We’re going to combine all these answers per question and note your first name and last initial then send them off to Kevin. We’re looking for the first 10 people to respond by Sunday June 11th, one of the TFF Atlanta Concert Anniversaries. All who submit get entered to win some Tears for Fears merch store cash.

Kevin also invites everyone to come out and listen to the Tears for Fears Tribute/Cover Band (Cheers for Tears) that will be having a show in Dallas on 16 June at the Granada Theatre.

Questions – please send these to PapaSFans@gmail.com

1. If you wouldn’t mind, I’d love to get an idea of where you are and what you do so that I can describe Tears and Kooks as a truly international community.

2. What has drawn you to Tears for Fears? Did you have an experience that pulled you in, when you decided that you need to see every TFF show you can?

3. There are a few bands I travel extensively to see, so I completely get it, although it’s hard to describe. How would you describe your Is it a hobby? Is it fair to compare it to being a football supporter or the like.

4. What are your thoughts on tribute bands, in general? Have you seen any TFF tribute bands?

5. How many times have you seen TFF? (Including solo tours)

6. How many your dates do you typically make it to? And what do you expect each time?

7. Are you a musician? If so, do you play TFF songs? In a tribute/cover band?

8.This is a bit vague, but what, in your opinion, makes TFF unique and magical? (Feel free to use different adjectives)

9. Is there anything I didn’t ask that I should’ve? Anything you’d like to add?

Thanks for participating!
-Andye, TFF Travel Fan Team Moderator

Tears for Fears 26 & 27 October – London

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Accommodations: The Kensington

If you were one of the fortunate ones able to snag a very difficult-to-obtain ticket for the 27 October show, you might as well go all out with a nice stay at The Kensington. This hotel is actually one of the preferred hotels of the Royal Albert Hall. Of course, if you’re local I’m sure you’re giving me the two finger salute.

Now, for those of us stateside who usually pay anywhere from $50-$275 a night for a standard to slightly upgraded room (with the exception of Vegas shows where we just pretend money is no object and go buck wild with cabanas for 3 days and parties), the Kensington is going to cost you around $400 US a night after tax. And…the room will be half the size of the swank abodes we’ve been spoiled with on tour. So, just be mentally ready for that. It’s gorgeous though. Take a look at the photos.

For those of us not going, myself included, this is like missing a Royal Wedding. The venue is unbelievable. It’s quite the answered prayer in many ways. There have been hundreds (I’m not exaggerating) of fans in the UK who have all but sold their insides begging and pleading Tears for Fears to have a show there (as if the band really has total control over that). And here it is…and damn if something funky didn’t happen the day the tickets went on sale to prevent us from going in addition to what was already a stab in the heart with short notice of ticket sales (remember when we said your 6 months of savings should also include $300 for a couple of Tears for Fears tickets? People think we’re trying to be funny – Nope, this is a prime example). Thankfully, Good Man Curt Smith – G-d love him – tweeted forward with a statement that once again proved his knowledge and sentiment to the cause of the fans. They know WE TRY hard to be at every show and that is an understatement.

Let me tell you right now… these “schemes” don’t hurt. Consider joining for future. You never know…

I have been that fan that literally flies home, goes to work and flies out that same evening JUST to see them one more time and in many cases, over and over again. It’s just THAT healing. But it’s even better when you’ve got a great venue with amazing seats and don’t have to contend with standing in queue 6-7 hours prior to the show for the dreaded Gen Am. THIS my dear fellow fans, is the show of shows to be at and I pray that something works out so that it happens again (maybe annually for a few years) so that we can all show up and show out in lovely frocks with our handkerchiefs in tow crying like a bride’s mother over these songs that have left us shook as f*ck.

Speaking of being shook, check out who is opening for the band… Freya Ridings. Check her out…powerful voice!

If by chance you just want to be in the area and hang around (there are people that do that), take British Airways or Delta. Use a car service to get you to and from London Heathrow and spoil yourself with a night at the Kensington. Then walk over to RAH and just be somewhere near without being disruptive. Just do it. Stay the weekend, leave on a Sunday. Walk around, be in the energy of historic London…just do it. If you have the resources to just get there…GO!

Are You Serious? What the hell are we gonna do?
RAH has guided tours, tea and much more. While you’re there, hire a car and go to Bath, England. Plan to stay a night there as well. Make the most of it!

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26 October Show with BBC2
BBC Radio 2

So, this is also happening and we’ve yet to have heard who the blessed Earls of Fortune are that got the tickets. But just “For Everyone’s I” as Curt would say, this is taking place. Bookmark it and follow it, you never know what you may see or find out on the day of the show. Gonna be pretty sweet for sure.

Meet and Greets
We get this question for every show. Unlike years past, we just don’t see these like we used to for a variety of reasons. It’s sort of an every man for himself, just ask and see what happens kind of thing. All we can say is for goodness sake, hold on to the no scream policy. Do not freak out around the band if you see them. Keep it cool. For some it’s hard because it’s literally like watching an angel manifest before you. Some may disagree but for those that “know” …you know it’s true.

Travel Fan Team on the Ground
For every show there is a loyal one who usually comes through and provides the coverage that we archive. We all pool our videos, whomever got the best one for each song is what goes online. Everyone uploads their selections to YouTube or sends us a file via email. We don’t know what will happen this time around because that ticket debacle just threw us off. We’re hoping for the best.

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What to expect?
The set list we’ve been hearing and hopefully some surprises. We’re checking to see if Mr. Moyer will join because that means Working Hour gets played! Heck yes!!! We’re also hoping the “Broken” ending for HOH will be played as well. That’s one to make you faint…bring your smelling salts and look alive. We can only pray that I Love You But I’m Lost will be permitted to the public at both shows. We’ll see!

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Cheers all, have a great time and stay in touch! We’ll be either within a mile of the venue being present and respectful or reachable by phone. Keep your passport card with you, keep the passport in the hotel. Trust us on that one!
-AA, Tears for Fears Travel Fan Team